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Loving Yourself in February

Posted by on Feb 2, 2017 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Loving Yourself in February

Loving Yourself in February

Here’s a great thought to focus on, Loving Yourself in February! The other day while strolling through Facebook I came across a few memes that really infuriated me.  Here were beautiful and intelligent women posting about what “they would not be receiving” this Valentine’s Day or asking for a declaration of love.  The picture of course including chocolates, jewelry, stuffed animals and flowers. Why did that anger me so much? Well, here you have some really great people missing the big picture!  There is no value in any of those things, nor the focus on not having them.  Those things, NOT ONE OF THEM, bring about love, loyalty and respect from an individual.  In fact the more you focus on WHAT you are getting instead of WHO you are getting in a relationship, the greater the chance that one day you will wake up and think to yourself “what the hell DID I get?!”  (Sorry guys) This reflection brought me to a greater share and the inspiration for this post.  Maybe this month would be a great month to use to focus less on the 14th of February and more on the idea of Self-Love.  We all could use a little bit more self love in our lives, regardless of age or status, or even gender.  So on the other side of the reflection, here are a few suggestions for February in hopes that you will worry less about a day and more about yourself. Get Organized.  Do some of those things you have been meaning to do that cause you guilt. Schedule a Massage.  Just because. Call an Old Friend.  Reconnect with yourself through your friendships. Plan a Date with Yourself.  When was the last time you bought flowers for yourself?  Sat in a movie theatre yourself?  Cooked yourself a meal you would make for a guest?  Or just shut your phone off and read or a book or took a nap?  Date doesn’t have to mean spending money, just means you focus on self time. Change your Internal Dialogue.  Become mindful of how you talk to yourself and make it more positive for the entire month.  You will be surprised at what a change this can bring! List your expectations.  Write down all of your expectations from those you work with, live with and maybe even don’t see that often.  Evaluate them.  Are they realistic?  Are they known?  Where do they come from?  Could you give what you are expecting?  Is it time to change some of those? Get moving.  Exercise is the only known factor to improve health that you have complete control over.  Love yourself enough to do it. Eat better.  Don’t starve yourself or start a crazy diet.  Just start reading what you are allowing to become a part of your body and make some better choices. Doesn’t have to be complicated, costly or take a lot of courage to do.  Well maybe a little bit of courage.  Whatever you do, consider this.  No one can give you better what you can yourself, particularly in the area of love.  Placing so much importance on something outside of yourself is only going to lead to heartache.  What you are, you attract, so love yourself and you will be surprised at what comes your way! Happy Loving yourself a Little Better in February!...

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5 Steps to Fall into Success

Posted by on Aug 30, 2015 in Uncategorized, Wellness | Comments Off on 5 Steps to Fall into Success

5 Steps to Fall into Success

With fall settling in and summer fading fast, now is a great time to consider that dreaded month of January.  You know the one….tighter pants…extra pounds…guilt from holiday habits. Why not create a different path to success beginning today? Below I would like to share with you 5 Steps to Fall into Success Simply, not only for the month of January but for the journey of your life! Practice Awareness:  NOW is the time to begin to appreciate how you are affected by weather changes.  No one knows better than you for YOU have lived through many past fall experiences.  Good questions to ask yourself are … How is my mood affected by the weather change?  If you are uncertain about this, evaluate your most intimate relationships.  Is fall or darker weather a time for joy and celebration or does everyone in your house get quiet and sullen? How does my eating change?  Do you prefer soups in the fall weather, do you eat as many fresh vegetables, do you cook more or less come fall?  Take note, this is important. How does my activity level change?  Are you more interested in going to the gym as the weather changes or do you curl up on the couch and hibernate with snacking and sitcoms? Understand the “Why” behind the Awareness:  Maybe your choices are a result of a past experience.  Maybe you feel limited by a lack of things to do or the financial ability to do them.  This can be even deeper when it comes to your relationship with food choices.  It can be a “void” that you feel when social interaction is reduced by bad weather or when the sun hides behind the clouds more often than it shines.  In order for you to shine, these two steps are essential to develop a solid action plan.  If you are wondering “why” that is … let me give you some clarity….. If you get in your car with the intention of travelling to a destination but don’t know where you are to begin with, how do you expect to know the route you need to take to reach it?  Awareness and understanding the Why identifies the beginning. Create a Realistic Action Plan:  Now that you are aware and can somewhat appreciate the “why” of what you are doing, success will come with a realistic action plan.  Note, I said realistic.  Saying “I am not going to eat after 7pm” is not an action plan.   The action plan for this goal would be to first understand what it is that you are doing that initiates the desire to snack in the evening.  Are you sitting around?  Is this a lonely time of the day for you?  Did you eat enough throughout the day to remove the hunger of the evening?  Break it down. What is the ultimate desired goal/action?  Example:  Eliminate the desire to eat after 7p What steps will you put in to place to see it through?  Example:  Make plans to chat with a friend at that time What obstacles do you see externally and intrinsically that might arise?  Example:  Lack of follow through or purchasing snacks I like to keep in the house so that I can tell myself “no” but have them in case. What is your action plan for getting around those  Example:  Plan activities or tasks at that time to keep me busy.  Reduce the amount of snack choices I have in the house by creating a meal plan and sticking to it at the store How can you reduce the the temptation for yourself?  (See above) Where will the accountability come from?  Food journalling, goal pants, emotional journalling, buddy system Remove Judgement:  I simply have one question to ask you.  How long have these habits been in place and what type of expectation for change are you setting for yourself to change them?  Simply put, if you were a manager and had to train an individual who had no experience in doing something that you wanted them to be proficient in,...

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5 Things the Fat girl gone Skinny won’t Say

Posted by on Feb 20, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 5 Things the Fat girl gone Skinny won’t Say

5 Things the Fat girl gone Skinny won’t Say

There are so many people out there who are challenging you to take on their course of action.  Some know what it is to be overweight, some not so much.  Some have really good things to share, others … not so much. Regardless few will say what you really need to hear for success.  Afterall, who wants to be enticed with words like “work”, “time”, and especially “change.”   Sure they might give you a shortcut answer in the form of a “meal plan to follow” or better yet, offer you an opportunity to purchase their “metabolism, hunger, muscle building, energy, fat burning” regulator programs that come in the form of a powder, shake or supplement … but …. there are 5 things they won’t say.   At the end of the day, here is what YOU need to KNOW if you truly are seeking a more manageable weight. It’s can’t be about the weight or you aren’t going to lose, you are going to gain.  Statistics show that individuals who solely focus on weight loss without addressing the many facets that influence gain or loss actually gain weight during their efforts. Short term diets rarely provide long term success.  Let’s face it, if you don’t make changes to the habits or choices you have made that brought you to needing a diet, you can eat all you want to get to the goal you want but returning to those same habits will just contribute to a never ending cycle. Standardized approaches MAY NOT work for you.  We are each unique, sure with the same systems, but dependent upon several factors including genetics, energy exertion in our lives, personality, stress, environment, etc, our needs may be different from someone else.  Standardized programs can sometimes bring about a sense of failure and reinforce the negative self talk of “I am never going to lose weight.”  You must find someone who is willing to help you figure out what will work for you in the long run. Your biggest fans are most likely not those that love you the most.  Support is expected but there are times that you must face the fact that certain people have come to expect certain things from you and when change happens, it makes everyone a bit uncomfortable.  Be sure to identify the obstacles in your life, communicate openly about your needs and never assume or expect anyone to offer blanket support.  This is your journey, how others fit is your responsibility. You must be willing to accept responsibility and along with that, Change.  It is the only thing that is going to bring lasting success.  Meal planning, family communication, trying new foods, finding new ways to get your fitness factor in .. these are all changes to your current behaviors and they are required if you are going to find success.   One of the weight loss quotes out there that I don’t necessarily agree with is this.  “It isn’t going to be easy but it will be worth it.”  That is entirely wrong.  When you accept that change is needed, it becomes easier to change and when you find someone who can help you see the small changes that you can make to get some results, the desire to change becomes greater.  It is a wonderful circle to live in and the result…. Lasting success!  Good Health!  Happiness!  Self Acceptance! Growing Love for yourself and Others! A GREAT LIFE. (period) Happy Healthy along The WAY to Healthy Living!  Thanks for stopping by. Feel free to pop on over to our social media page at www.facebook.com/TheWAYtoHealthyLiving or follow us on Twitter @SelinaUglow.  Sharing in a community of simple health tips is a great start to your journey....

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Throwback Thursday Reflection

Posted by on Feb 19, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Throwback Thursday Reflection

Throwback Thursday Reflection

Once upon a time, now long ago, I woke up one day and looked in the mirror only to realize that I had become something completely different than I thought I would be.  Not only was my body structure a whopping excess of 200#, I wasn’t the mother I wanted to be, the wife I wanted to be or quite honestly in any circumstance I wanted to be in. It happens like that you, you know? You find yourself in a mess of situations and wonder for a moment just how you had gotten this far without making a change or even noticing the path you had gotten yourself on. Fortunately for me, God graced me with the gift of Cancer.  This would be the shift that I needed to get off of the roller coaster track and begin to lay the foundation for what is now a very blessed life.  When I share “blessed”, I am not abundantly wealthy and still struggle from month to month.  I can’t say that physically I am exactly where I desire to be but I can say that I am happy with and love who I am entirely. That makes a big difference.  Read a blog the other day that read “thin doesn’t mean happy.”  She isn’t kidding. One thing I realize as I share this Throwback Thursday was that even though I might have said to myself “how did I get here?”, I now have an answer.  Although the diagnosis was a big smack in the face, I can honestly say that there were many moments before when my “inside voice” was screaming for change and the “outside” me didn’t listen or found a way to excuse the words. Today, awaken to another day.  A rebirth of anew.  Scale continuing to decline.  More importantly, I have greater physical strength and self satisfaction than I ever had.  Along with it, a continued renewal of feeling blessed.  That blessing, giving me the ability to let go and embrace a healthier way of living in each choice I make. It is something to be celebrated you know.  Have you stopped to celebrate? If you have taken the time to make better choices, when was the last time you stopped and celebrated the things that show it? A healthier face in the mirror rather than looking down at the waistline. The appreciation of how much fun it is to figure out how to get the pomegranate seeds out without making a bloody (literally) mess in your kitchen.  (There is a great video on YouTube for that by the way, gotta love the internet.) The sensations that come from preparing, cooking, and trying a new food. If you have answered “yes” to any of these things, that is something to be celebrated!  Enjoy that today along your WAY to Healthy...

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As you See It….

Posted by on Jan 18, 2014 in Financial Management, Uncategorized, Weight Loss, Wellness | Comments Off on As you See It….

As I work to complete the planning for our Personal Dream Jar workshop to be held this Monday, January 20th, I am reminded that our future is exactly as we see it to be.  I know what you are thinking, how can that be true?  But bear with me and consider the past.  Have you ever worried so much about something that you had said “I just knew it was going to happen” when it did?  Is it possible that you answered your own reality creation?  Consider that for a moment and then consider your thoughts.   Are they negative, full of worry and fear or positive and full of promise?  Either way when an unwanted situation occurred, depending on your mindset can you honestly say that the latter was helpful?  So today, we encourage you to start the day by eliminating the limiting beliefs and to begin exercising a better vision mentally for your future.   1)  Refuse to accept or to identify with the belief.  Ask yourself, is this really me?  Feed your mind a few examples of how you displayed exactly the opposite of this limiting belief such as a time when you did succeed at weight loss or were able to accomplish a task. 2)  Remain flexible.  So often we tell ourselves that it is the way it is, but is it really?  Can there be changes?  Often the answer is yes. 3)  Move beyond the boundaries you have set.  If you reach what you think is the end of the road.  Keep going, there is more ground to cover. 4)  Find your focus and see it.  The best example of this is when my team of workers would be affected by a very negative focus in the office.  I would explain to them, see yourself on a journey and here is the path, see the house.  No matter what happens, remember that your goal is to reach the house so that you don’t end up far into the field. 5)  Keep a “TO DONE” list.  Don’t think you can accomplish it, refer to all of the things you have already done and then affirm that you can take this on as well. Be well, be authentic, take the risk … what have you got to lose? –...

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Simply a Matter of Time …

Posted by on Jan 10, 2014 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Simply a Matter of Time …

Just as the lyrics of the famous Jim Croce song, many find that time is the challenge to fulfilling a desire or a goal, but what if you could make time?  When was the last time you intentionally started the day with the idea in mind that you would do just that?  Today, January 10th 2014 is a great day to start a new WAY! Ten Minutes in perspective isn’t a lot of time.  As we expressed in our blog post just the other day, the power of a small habit is amazing.  Committing to giving yourself ten minutes out of the entire day, too can make a huge difference. Let’s put it into perspective, there are 1,440 minutes available in the day.  On average, 720 of those minutes are spent awake.  720.  Consider that number and then consider the small 1% of your day that you can commit to just you.  10 Minutes. 10 Minutes of time to breathe, drink a glass of water, write in your journal, reflect positively on the day or plan the possibilities of tomorrow.  The only must of the ten minutes we recommend is that you shut off the outside world so that you can be mindful in the moment.  Becoming more mindful for just a small amount of time is a great start to reducing reactivity, resentment of time spent and increasing joy and gratitude in life.  So what have you got to lose, start planning it today! Wishing you a wonderful 10 Minutes in YOUR day today on The WAY to Healthy Living! –         ...

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